Making Judgements

Making Judgements

Man is habituated for making judgements on others. He loves jumping to conclusions even though he has absolutely no idea of the truth about the other person.

We love to arrive at our biased conclusions even before we have gathered enough facts about another human being. I am reminded of an ad which appeared for some phone company where the woman is speaking at a nearby table holding her hand near her ear. At another table an older gentleman who looks at her thinks that she is talking to him. In fact she was talking into her phone which was a very tiny instrument cupped in her hand. Here the gentleman who thought that she was talking to him, is like us who don’t know the entire facts and just think what our little mind exaggerates to us.

Imagine someone whom you don’t like from the bottom of your heart is about to say something and you suddenly interject and cut him off dissing him right at start. Wouldn’t you like to know what he was going to speak? No! You never even allowed him to speak up. You immediately jumped the gun and destroyed the scene. This happens for multiple reasons. One of them is our previous experience with the said individual. We assume he will do the same thing as he did before. Second one is our internal biases. We hate certain things and people, say for example, people who wear black, religious folks, dark skinned, opposition parties, political folks, physically or mentally challenged ones, classic relatives, siblings, etc, etc.. Here the term hate is a strongly biased one and man surely has very strong biases.

We have to learn to control our constantly jumping mind. Can you not take in the other persons views completely before you start your conclusions? So first you gotta listen very patiently to what he speaks. Don’t interject and put your leg in the middle. Shut your mind and your mouth and get the entire story first before arriving at conclusions. Silly and stupid arguments happen only because we do not allow the other person to complete his say. We love taking a biased stand.

Look at a nation called USA and you will know what I am talking about. The media and people are bashing the newly elected president even before he has taken charge. It is important to first allow the man to speak and do his job and not criticize even before he has done anything at all. How can anyone prejudge another person? Don’t you remember the clip of Jesse Owens winning gold at Berlin Olympics? Also, remember the derogatory cover of a magazine showing a beggar sitting on nukes holding a begging bowl, depicting India is such poor light when India became the nuclear power?

Today, if you look at the above two examples you will realize that a colored man is the fastest individual and India is fast becoming one of the richest nations. Still man was doing what he is best at. Deriding others even before he has all the facts in hand. This happens so often in the talent shows too. The judges judge a person even before he had performed by looking at appearances.

In spiritual, man is supposed to shut up and listen to everything that the Master teaches. This is called silencing the mind. Listening is the most important part of sadhana or practices. Silence is integral part of spirituality. So is listening. In spiritual man learns to overcome his mind by making it silent. Yogis sit in meditative state for a very long time. Meditation is the key to spirituality and learning to silence the mouth and the mind is surely the key to progressing in that world.

A true spiritual being is never judgmental. He is supposed to never give opinions or take sides. He has to be neutral and understanding. He learns empathy and knows that no one is right or wrong. Spiritual teaches one not to be judgmental. Everyone and everything is a portion of the divine. Each of us are performing a role as written by The Lord. Even villains like Ravana or Shishupal were enacting a part in the drama of life. They were ordained to do those roles by The Lord Himself. So whom can the spiritual ones judge on?

As a concluding note I will urge every spiritual person to not judge another human being before hearing the complete story from the other side. Know that everything is perfect in its place. Without the villain there can never be a hero. They both complement each other and have their perfect places. So stop judging and become silent and peaceful.

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A Hundred Sins Before Cutoff!

Hundred SinsA hundred sins is allowed before the life line is cut off! I was asked what is so special about that? Why are people allowed to go on with the wrong doings for such a long time? Can it not be nipped in the bud right at the beginning? Why do you allow someone to bulldoze you and call out names?
I shall tell you some stories here to help you understand that.
First is about Valyakoli who stopped every man in the forest and looted and then killed him. One day he stopped Naradmuni. The sage told him that he is nearing the hundred sins mark and he still had a chance of redemption. Valyakoli took that chance after understanding the truth that no one will willingly accept your sins even if they are your wife and children, even when you are killing for subsisting them! He became Valmiki the great sage before his hundred was reached.
Krsna had given His word to Srutadevi, his aunt that He would allow a hundred misdemeanors before He would kill her son Shishupal. At the rajyasuya yagnya of Yudhisthir, Krsna beheads Shishupal for calling Him cowherd, etc (where he reached the said target)and insulting Him!
These stories will tell you the compassionate nature of The Lord. He allows a person to correct himself and gives him a fair chance to rectify his faults.
Then it is important to give everyone enough chances before they can be curtailed or destroyed. Also if someone falls from first floor of the building he may not get that hurt but if he were to be pushed from hundred stories, it would make a grand spectacle for one and all! No one would then dare do such heinous acts.
A human being who commits one murder or one robbery is very much fearful but as he keeps on doing more crimes, he emboldens himself with the understanding that the punishment is the same for many more also! They can only hang you once for one murder or for many!
So you can correct someone the first couple of times but as they continue to do the same, you need to give them hundred chances before they can be destroyed.
So allow them to rise the highest before you can destroy them!

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