To rise above the mind and body is the most difficult thing for any man. To then rise above the mundane intellect and ideas of petty joys of life would be still more tougher. The Guru can only work through those who have surrendered all of the above. The purely material beings can never rise above the first covering(body) so leave alone the mind. Now think how Jesus rose above all these to reach His Father…. How many can even digest a simple bodily hurt or a humiliation of the mind? To be a spiritual being you have to rise above first the body, then mind, mundane intellect and lastly the ever enticing Maya!
To draw attention towards themselves children and the elderly will behave in a typical way. They throw a tantrum or want you to see them as martyrs. Its their individual ego at work. Yet humans will prove it to you that its their goodness alone and not any method of pointing towards your meanness of being a bad provider. Its easy to get conned into their emotional trap. Stop being a martyr and trapping others into your stagecraft. To be the truly good-self you will take care of your own and stop becoming a burden on others. God has given you every means of rising above your pitiable and pathetic state of mind. Rise and do your duty always!
You come in this world to perform actions. Actions are connected with senses and the mind. You see, hear, touch, feel those objects. Your mind comes into play when the actions has to be performed. A motivated actions involves Karma.
I am extremely touched by your acceptance,not knowing what it meant,Adiyaen-humble Disciple!As Shri Ramanujacharya was to His Supreme Guru! I have known from the start that a teacher is not a teacher till she has a student facing her. It is always the student which defines the teacher and black defines white, so also evil defines good. God would not be God if there was no devil to define Him.
That clearly shows if there is no contrast then the object cannot be seen at all. Without a shadow we can never know that there is light or an object. Without maya we can never understand God, without the MIND we cannot understand God!
M means Maya– that which deludes us at all times.Making us think that the shadow has an independent existence and is there only because of itself.
I means I or Ego– that which makes us think that I am the doer and not someone else.You think that you got the job or education because of I ,me and myself!!!I make money,I am an husband,I earn,I give to my family food clothing shelter,education.. and so on!!
N stands for Negation or Neti-neti which means not this and not this…we do that with our mind.We negate everything with mind.But the Vedas define that as the right method,remember?
D stands for Deception which our mind always does to us. We can never see the truth since we use the mind and it takes over us.ONLY when the mind rules and not when you rule the mind!
Here I shall tell you a story of a monk who wanted to meet Buddha so he travelled a very long way to meet Him. It was nightfall and he was very thirsty so he prayed to Buddha for water and rest.
He was tired and at one place he stumbled and fell and his hand touched something.
It glistened in the moonlight as a silver goblet filled with cool thirst quenching water so he readily drank it and fell in a deep sleep.The next day he woke up and saw the silver goblet and the water he drank…..
It was a skull of a dead human with brain fluid and worms swimming in it. He puked!!!
He was then suddenly filled with light of enlightenment…… He knew then that what was water in the night was yucky stuff in day…that which makes us think like that is our MIND!!!
Go beyond it and then the truth will shine.
So when we overcome the silly MIND using the same MIND to overcome by itself, we will know the how and why and all other answers.
Maya is important to go to Him, so make her your friend and use her to get to Him.
So the other is as important as that object. Never discount anything in life.All have their own equal importance. The small cog holds the wheel remember, so give it the due credit.
So Adiyaen,I give you my LOVE and RESPECT for making me who I am and defining me!
Thank You for being yourself and giving me the credibility by sitting in front of me!
Where is the mind? Where do you think is the mind? Is it somewhere in your head or is it the brain? Is it the heart or any other part of the body? No one has the real idea but most of the people believe that it is in our heads.
In India, if you were to ask a person where is the mind, he will answer you very peculiarly. He may point out towards his heart. Indians call mind as munn or mun! The mun is believed to be near the heart. So if a westerner was asked, he invariably points towards the brain or head.
Let me tell you where the mind is. Mind is called one of the bodies according to Hindus and Buddhists. Mind is supposed to carry data about all the things from this life and even the past in the form of memories and tendencies. I have just suggested two but it has more than that.
Coming back to the location of the mind, it is everywhere right across the body. From the head to the tip of your toe. Are you surprised to know that? Let me give you an idea. Everyone believes when your little toe gets hurt, you yell in pain and it hurts there. Now, have you observed how quick the reaction came about? Similarly, someone just trying to poke you in the eye, you blink pretty fast. You call it instinctive action. The heart beats and stomach digests and chomps food to bits. How do all these various parts of body react?
Every part of our body reacts swiftly and minimises the reaction or action. Sometimes you act as if you have an inbuilt NFC device embedded inside your body. You suddenly withdraw or get into fear mode or into a shell. Especially at the dentists or the eye doctor.
Even though the science tells us every action is processed inside the brain, let me tell you that mostly it happens that way. But part of the quick response happens at the organ or the body part itself. Like the eye will process information fast and blink if a foreign object is trying to enter it. So it tell you that there are localised actions too which includes data analysis and resultant. This action is controlled by this so called invisible mind. The mind sits on top of the nerves and reactive nodes. The space in between the nerve endings called synapses are carrying immense data which we cannot understand today. Somewhere in the future man will be able to tap into this data bank.
This whole bank of information is churned and thrown out as action by the mind which is spread all over the body. I know you may ask me for scientific proof. Don’t worry, the science itself will tell you soon enough, whatever I am saying is absolutely right. Wait for a little while.
Mind is the most important part of our decision making process inside the body. A healthy body and a healthy mind makes one take right decisions and lead a happy life. A diseased mind is very destructive and can be harmful to the man. So taking care of your mind and body and keeping it healthy is very important.
Physical exercises or yoga helps the body to be fit and fine. The exercises of breath or Pranayama helps one to keep mind healthy. Also Astanga yoga makes one healthy wealthy and wise. So keep your mind under control and stay healthy.
I am done with it, God! I am fed up and I don’t want to go through this life again.
Well, what is happening now?
I am tired of taking this shit every single time and I don’t want to go through this anymore.
I don’t get it. You are talking about your married life, right?
You know it all and yet you are asking about it? Yes, I am talking about my marriage only.
But aren’t you the one who said that he is the perfect match for me?
Yes, but that was years ago. When we were dating, I knew he was my dream man. Now everything has changed.
Let me refresh your memory, you came to me about this at least five or six times, isn’t it?
Yes. But I thought I should give him one more chance to change. But that’s not happening anymore.
Why do you think so? Maybe he needs a few more chances?
Are you joking? He is not going to change. He behaves exactly the same way as before.
But doesn’t he apologize for raising his hands on you?
Yes, every single time, he apologizes but forgets about it soon. He has beaten me so badly this time.
What is the difference between every beating you have got? Haven’t you been getting used to it?
What nonsense are you talking, God? He raises his hands, period!
That’s exactly what I am saying. Why did you allow him in the first place to do that heinous act? You should have stopped him then!
I was immature and weak. I believed it was my fault alone. He raised his hands and immediately said sorry. I let it go.
Wasn’t that the first mistake you did? So why allow him the second time? And the third and then continue with it?
I always thought he will change and be his loving self like before! But he hasn’t changed at all.
But why did you go back to him again and again?
How am I to say why I went? I don’t know. Don’t badger me like that, God!
I am not badgering you. I am just asking you the reasons.
I honestly don’t know, why I did that? Maybe I was afraid. Maybe I loved him a lot. Or I might have been crazy about him. I don’t know.
Let me remind you about it. The second time it happened, you told him that you are pregnant so he stopped.
Yes, I remember that. Then it was baby which couldn’t allow me to abandon him. You are right God!
Every single time you have given some silly and stupid reasons to go back to him.
You know that. It was all about my fears and inadequacies. I was afraid.
What were you afraid about?
That he will leave me and go. I have his baby and who will look after her! I was constantly reminded about my elder sister who came back from her marriage. She went through hell and still suffering.
So you didn’t want to suffer like that so you took the easy way out of going back to him.
Also, I thought what will my kid say to others, that she doesn’t have a father? I didn’t want to deny her that. I acted in good faith.
And jeopardized your entire life? How stupid you can be? Now tell me what do you want me to do?
Help him get better. Make him love me like before. I just want him to be kind and loving towards me again. You know he is not a bad man. Just show him the right path!
Ha, ha, ha, ha! You are really naive or absolutely mad.
What do you mean? Am I asking for too much from you, God? It’s just a simple ask.
You are not going to solve this problem any way. You still are asking to go back to him, how stupid can you be?
Then what am I to do? Do you think that it is easy for me? I am the one who is suffering all his atrocities.
That’s what I said. You are the sufferer and the martyr too. When will it get drilled into your head that he is not going to change?
Then what am I to do?
You change. Why are you asking for his change in behavior? You have to address your problem first. You are the one who needs to change.
But how is that possible? What can I do? I am not able to at this age.
That’s how losers talk. You are quite capable of anything. You can decide to change and nothing will stop you. On the contrary, my universe will work with you.
How am I to do that? Help me please.
First you must decide once and for all that this is it! I am not going back anymore. Then take matters into your own hands and move on. Don’t look back.
God, isn’t it against the religion? What life will I give my child? Doesn’t she need a father? What about money? Where will I stay? What will happen to us? I can’t take such risks.
See, I knew that. You can never take a stand. You are useless. Make up your mind, woman! Stop whining and start acting. You need your freedom. So what if you have to go through a little discomfort in life?
But I am not ready for it. Let me try once more. I will love him more than before. He will change. I am sure, he will. Let’s give him another chance.
There you go again. What can I say? Remember it’s YOU WHO HAS TO CHANGE! Not him. You don’t trust me and the God inside of you.
Next time I will surely do the needful. This time you let him be, God. I am sure things will work out. I have full faith in you.
It’s no use. You have already convinced yourself that there will be next time. So he won’t change. Alright. You go back and try once again.
Yes. I want to do that.
Get more beaten up and come once again. I will wait for you! Good bye. Come back soon! Hope you decide then……